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Wednesday, May 9, 2012

My Aim is True

My lights are back, my sink's draining just fine and the Beest has been unsettlingly sweet. Liitle good things. Which are important when there are many bad things.

Some people are blowing trivial spats way out of proportion while huge meteors have lately fallen on people I care deeply about. Really, try to get me to care about your pissy childish tantrums over next to nothing? Sure you wanna do that? Go on then. Whine and kvetch and demand sympathy when you're making much more of it than it needs be. You'll only get a pointed stare from me right now. But stay away from the tops of staircases. I'm not the only one who doesn't want to hear it.

Catastrophies fall on people and there's nothing you can do but be a witness, hold a hand, be available. All the support and love you offer can't stop them from happening. We are all woefully impotent in the face of disaster. After all the questions are answered and all the options explored sometimes there's nothing but living with the Bad Thing That's Happened. Maybe that's why we make gods. Humans have a sense of what's right and wrong, what's fair and unfair. And when there's wrongitude and nothing to be done for it we still need hope that somehow it'll be put right. A celestial court where in the end, the good will prevail. I stopped believing in that a long time ago. Pie in the sky isn't for me.

Things are what they are. Do your best, however limited or feeble it seems. Sometimes even knowing what your best is in a situation is boggling. But keeping your aim true is what matters.

I struggle to have perspective. Most things aren't worth "getting your bowels in an uproar", as Mom used to say. Indulging in petty squabbles is a waste of time and is, in the end, meaningless egotistical games of dick-dick. Call it out and leave it. As Herman said, "Wish them upon themselves." That keeps the way clear for dealing with the real meteors that fall from nowhere and change things forever. I've found that with perspective my own meteors are manageable. Things really can always be way worse. Some things never get better. It's enough to deal with things as they are. Nobody needs to dramatize them if they're truly bad.

And if someone wants drama, there are always staircases...

Here are some great quotes by a wise man, William Blake

And when things are much too serious there's silly comedy

12 comments:

mybabyjohn/Delores said...

There seems to be a bit of s**t falling in everyone's life right now. All we can do is care for each other.

Allyson said...

haha. i know a shout out when i see one bythejesus. and yeah, i'm pretty sure it's killing me too. :) happens to the best of us.

going for a 5 or 6er with all the fellas (still have c's furfaces and glad for it, best snugglers evah!!) tonight, but should be home by 6:30ish.

no worries mama, what happens will happen and then there'll be more. <3

Austan said...

Lawless- We all gotta duck when the shit hits the fan. :)

Austan said...

Al- i'll call you tonight. it won't kill, just maim. :I i love you, babycakes. stay kickass.

Lisa said...

When it rains, it pours. But, happily, I have flood insurance. :D It's the pressure behind the dam that gets to me. Once that dam breaks, I can handle it. Loves you!

Austan said...

I don't even talk about floods anymore. ;) And somehow, it's not what happens to me that freaks me out. I can get hit by a truck and it's fine. But let someone else get hit and I'm ready to spontaneously combust. Guess I gotta work on that. Loves!!

Cathy Olliffe-Webster said...

HAAA! Sorry, but this is something I've been DYING to write!!!! You go girl!!! And I'll make sure I take the elevator!

The Elephant's Child said...

You are such a wise womman. Living with things that cannot be changed is the only option that is really available - and bitching and moaning doesn't make it any easier. And uses precious energy.

Lisa said...

I knew that was a bad analogy when I hit "publish", but it was the best way to describe it for me :D But, if you look closely at it - Irene was horrible and tons and tons of bad went along with it. There was some good that came out of it, too. For one, you've got Beest!

Austan said...

Cathy- You're safe by the stairs. In fact, I'd be asking you to lend a hand... ;)

Austan said...

EC- Well, I don't know if it's wisdom. I seem to have less patience for dramaholics lately. There are enough real troubles to keep us busy without blowing nonsense out of proportion.

Austan said...

Niecely- There's good and bad that comes of everything. We're mounting the second Battle for The Shire now, which couldn't have happened if we hadn't been flooded (good), and wouldn't be necessary if we hadn't been (bad). And yes, I have The Beest, but I kinda think that would've happened, flood or no...